Violence in relationships is rarely a one-off event but is often a pattern of behaviour
which may be physical, emotional, sexual, or financial.

Physical Abuse

  • Hitting
  • Pushing
  • Strangling
  • Choking
  • Causing any physical harm

Emotional Abuse

  • Calling their partner names
  • texting or emailing abusive messages to their partner
  • putting their partner down
  • shouting or swearing
  • Demanding things
  • Throwing things
  • controlling who their partner interacts with
  • Accusing their partner of things
  • demanding that their partner change their clothes or the way they look

Sexual Abuse

  • Pressure their partner to have sex
  • Touching their partner against their will
  • Sulking or punishing their partner for not wanting sex
  • Pressuring their partner to have unprotected sex
  • Sexual abuse can happen with married and unmarried couples

Financial Abuse

  • Control their partner's use or access to money they have earned or saved
  • Take their partner's money without permission
  • Pressure their partner to quit their job
  • Sabotage their partner's work responsibilities
  • Evading or refusing to pay child support


Abuse is not always straightforward and can be more than
physical, mental, emotional or financial

Post Separation Abuse

If after separation or divorce, a person is making unwelcome contact, checking up on their ex’s movements or pressuring them to reunite, then that person is abusing their ex-partner.


Often difficult to pinpoint, gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse used to gain power over someone by making them doubt themselves or question their own sanity.
A person uses gaslighting in a relationship when they:

– Tell blatant lies
– Deny something, even if their partner has proof
– Use what is most important to their partner as ‘ammunition’ in an argument
– Call their partner ‘crazy’ or
– Say that everyone else is lying

Revenge Porn

Revealing or sexually explicit images or videos of a person posted on the internet (social media sites, WhatsApp and other chat applications etc), typically by a former sexual partner, without the consent of the subject and in order to cause them distress or embarrassment.
*This is now illegal in Trinidad and Tobago