HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BEHAVIOUR IS HURTING OTHERS

Violence in relationships is rarely a one-off event but is often a pattern of behaviour
which may be physical, emotional, sexual, or financial.

Physical Abuse

  • Hitting
  • Pushing
  • Strangling
  • Choking
  • Causing any physical harm

Emotional Abuse

  • Calling their partner names
  • texting or emailing abusive messages to their partner
  • putting their partner down
  • shouting or swearing
  • Demanding things
  • Throwing things
  • controlling who their partner interacts with
  • Accusing their partner of things
  • demanding that their partner change their clothes or the way they look

Sexual Abuse

  • Pressure their partner to have sex
  • Touching their partner against their will
  • Sulking or punishing their partner for not wanting sex
  • Pressuring their partner to have unprotected sex
  • Sexual abuse can happen with married and unmarried couples

Financial Abuse

  • Control their partner's use or access to money they have earned or saved
  • Take their partner's money without permission
  • Pressure their partner to quit their job
  • Sabotage their partner's work responsibilities
  • Evading or refusing to pay child support

OTHER FORMS OF ABUSE

Abuse is not always straightforward and can be more than
physical, mental, emotional or financial

Post Separation Abuse

If after separation or divorce, a person is making unwelcome contact, checking up on their ex’s movements or pressuring them to reunite, then that person is abusing their ex-partner.

Gaslighting

Often difficult to pinpoint, gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse used to gain power over someone by making them doubt themselves or question their own sanity.
A person uses gaslighting in a relationship when they:

– Tell blatant lies
– Deny something, even if their partner has proof
– Use what is most important to their partner as ‘ammunition’ in an argument
– Call their partner ‘crazy’ or
– Say that everyone else is lying

Revenge Porn

Revealing or sexually explicit images or videos of a person posted on the internet (social media sites, WhatsApp and other chat applications etc), typically by a former sexual partner, without the consent of the subject and in order to cause them distress or embarrassment.
*This is now illegal in Trinidad and Tobago